NEVER LET THEM GO
A young lady named Lauren graduated from college in Duluth, Minnesota and moved to start graduate studies at Bethel, a Christian University in St. Paul, Minnesota. Most of her friends were still up in Duluth, with only a few in the city area, so Lauren decided that she wanted to meet different people, with her top priority being finding a man that loves God.
Since Lauren was in school and surrounded by the same thirty people every day, she signed up on the Christian Mingle web site. Lauren was on the site for only four days before a man named Luke sent her a message saying, “Your profile looks amazing, but you are just a little too young for me.” For everyone who knew Lauren, she is wasn’t very happy with people who judge others by their looks. So she responded by saying, “Excuse me sir. Age is just a number and I believe it is all about maturity.”
In spite of that beginning, Luke and Lauren met at a coffee shop and chatted for awhile. After they made sure the other was who they said they were, Luke already made plans to invite her on a date at the Walker Art Center. This date went really well, and the rest, well, it’s one of the world’s best love stories. They wanted to have a future together with keeping God as the foundation of their marriage. They both prayed that God would work it out for them to be together and keep God at the center of everything that they did!
As Luke and Lauren continued to discover and grew to know one another on a deeper level, there was an immediate connection. Problems that seemed to be issues in other relationships did not appear to be complications in their relationship, and well, it felt rather easy to sort through misunderstandings. They realized that their relationship was God-orchestrated and it was His perfect timing that brought them together.
When asked by other couples what made them so right for each other, Luke’s advice was not give up if things don’t work out right the first time. He had to keep postponing their wedding because of issues with his work that caused them to be separated on different occasion, some separations were longer than others. But he knew he found the right woman, and waiting was completely worth it. He also said to stay completely satisfied in your relationship with the Lord, and if He chooses to give you the right partner, then be open to His plan for making it happen!
When asked the same question, Lauren’s advice was to always keep God number one in your life. Pray, pray, pray for absolutely everything going on in your search of finding the right match. Be still and listen for God’s direction and continue to put your faith, hope and comfort in Him as He is the only one that can bear the weight of your desire. Often, what is missing in your relationship with the Lord is what is missing in your relationship with the one you want to marry. Once you find the one you’ve been looking for, remember to love them for who they are, and never try to change them, only offer them a form of new management.
As I read this story it reminded me of one of my favorite movies, “South Pacific,” and the title song that I still sing from time to time because it fits my own situation and the woman I love so much as well. For me, it’s the love story of my own life. It goes:
Some enchanted evening, you may see a stranger,
You may see a stranger across a crowded room,
And somehow you know, you know even then,
That somehow you’ll see her again and again.
Some enchanted evening, someone may be laughing,
You may hear her laughing across a crowded room,
And night after night, as strange as it seems,
The sound of her laughter will ring in your dreams.
Who can explain it, who can tell you why?
Fools give you reasons, wise men never try.
Some enchanted evening, when you find your true love,
When you hear her call you across a crowded room,
Then fly to her side and make her your own,
Or all through your life you may dream all alone.
Once you have found her, never let her go,
Once you have found her, never let her go.
This story may not represent the exact way you met your spouse, why and how you fell in love with them, or what you went through before and after you were married. But there is one principle that should be taken from this love story. It can either be that you went out and got your spouse based on your own wants and wishes, or, you have your spouse because you prayed to God and He gave them to you. That’s why, once you have the one meant for you, never, never, never let them go. They’re God’s gift to you, so He is trusting you to do all you can to take care of that gift. So every time you look at your spouse’s wonderful face, see their smile, or hear them laugh, say, “Thank you, Lord, for Your precious gift to me!” – Dr. Robert R Seyda