
08/22/26
I recently watched a newscast, and the host was speaking to a panel of political experts who suggested that both Republican and Democratic candidates needed to emphasize Better Wages for employees as part of their campaign platform. Immediately, my German brain began to play an old computer game called “Tetra,” where it tried to make all the following blocks fit into the open spaces below until the line disappeared. It was unsuccessful! I wondered if, for even a brief moment, the host had ever considered how the wages of employees are increased. The government cannot run their business. The best they can do search through their government regulations and reduce the number so that the employer has more money left for salaries.
When I studied psychology in college, we never were given such a situation as a clinical study. So, I wanted to find out what those who did study have to say about such impossible promises. Psychologists explain that immediate emotional gratification, deep-seated mental biases, or poor nervous executive functioning usually drive people who make promises without considering the cost or feasibility. Rather than being a simple act, this behavior generally stems from distinct psychological profiles and situational coping mechanisms. In other words, people like this don’t give much thought to cause and effect.
Experts categorize these individuals into a few primary types based on their underlying motivations: There are the Sincere Promisers: These individuals suffer from what psychologists call the intention-behavior gap. At the exact moment they make the promise, they genuinely intend to keep it and feel a surge of enthusiasm. However, they fail to map out the realistic energy, time, or resources required, causing their motivation to evaporate when it comes time to execute completely. Then there are the Emotional Escape Artists: This profile uses promises as a tool for conflict avoidance. When faced with a partner’s disappointment, an awkward request, or immediate pressure, they lack the emotional stamina to say “no”. They offer a grand promise to immediately relieve the tension, treating future consequences as a problem for another day. This also includes Impaired Executors: For some, the issue is structural rather than emotional. They struggle with time estimation, task initiation, and accurately weighing long-term physical or financial costs. And finally, Strategic Manipulators (“Future-Faker”): This behavior is a deliberate control tactic known as future-faking. Narcissistic or manipulative personalities intentionally paint detailed pictures of a shared future to secure a target’s affection, compliance, or forgiveness, completely unbothered by the fact that they have no intention of delivering.
Psychologists also point to universal flaws in human thinking that are highly exaggerated in these individuals who have a severe tendency to underestimate the time, costs, and risks of future actions while overestimating the likelihood of a positive outcome. While humans naturally view their “future self” as a stranger, a reckless promiser assumes that the version of them next week will magically have more energy, money, and willingness to pay the cost than they do right now.
But that wasn’t enough for me; I wanted to know what the Bible had to say about such individuals. I found that it describes a person who makes promises without considering the cost as foolish, trapped, and lacking integrity. Scripture consistently warns that making rash, impulsive commitments leads to spiritual danger, social embarrassment, and financial ruin. The biblical perspective on making thoughtless promises centers on several key principles: For instance, making a thoughtless commitment—especially to God—is explicitly labeled as foolishness. Proverbs 20:25: “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider his vows.” Ecclesiastes 5:5: “It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.” The text warns that claiming “it was a mistake” will not prevent God’s anger over destroyed efforts.
Jesus highlighted that failing to plan leads to public mockery, comparing it to starting a building without funds, as stated in Luke 14:28-29. And Proverbs warns that giving guarantees or taking on debt for others without thought can trap you by your own words. Proverbs 6:1-2 urges acting immediately to free oneself from such binding commitments. Also, Proverbs 25:14 likens those who boast of gifts they never deliver to “clouds and wind without rain,” representing false promises. In addition, Jesus taught in Matthew 5:37 to keep speech simple—”Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No'”—to avoid traps. If a costly promise is made, Psalm 15:4 advises honoring it even when it causes personal pain.
