Nineteenth Century French writer, director, and actor Jean-Baptiste Poquelin, who became famous by his stage name, Molière, was also well-known for the satire he wrote into the script for characters in his plays. In one play, a character named Cynthie finishes her lines with these words: “Vivre sans aimer n’est pas proprement vivre,” which translated is: “To live without loving is not really to live.”1
It is apparent that Molière discovered a secret that many people today still have not uncovered, and that is: We were born to love because loving is what living is all about. There should be nothing in life that gives us more satisfaction than when we exercise our will to love someone as a parent, sibling, friend, neighbor, workmate, especially our spouse, or out of compassion. The reason why love must be an act of the will is because just saying it does not make it real. It must be shown, demonstrated, acted out, in some way so that the person it is intended for can see it, believe, it, accept it, and respond to it.
What bothers me today, is how so many people have allowed cell phones, I-Pads, Tablets, etc., to become a box in which they live, move, and have their being. They don’t make eye contact anymore, they walk into light posts, trip into shopping mall fountains, even have serious and deadly automobile accidents because their eyes were not on the road. I’ve even seen people in church looking more at their cell phones than at the praise and worship team or the minister as he preaches.
It would be nothing short of heartbreak if any person would end their day without having shown love to at least one person while they are awake, at work, out and about doing their errands, and going through their day. These acts of love are not so much about the giver as it is about the recipient. My mind staggers at the thought of what this world would be like if it wasn’t for God’s love. But God didn’t just say it, He demonstrated it on the cross. So as Cynthie rightly says in Molière’s play: “To live without loving is not really to live.” – Dr. Robert R Seyda
1 Oeuvres de Jean-Baptiste Poquelin de Molière, Tome Troisème, La Princesse d’Elide, Act ii, scene I, published in Paris by De L’imprimerie de P. Didot L’ainé, 1817, p. 33