No doubt we’ve all heard about whether someone or something is the subject or object of an act or conversation. Knowing how to distinguish will help us figure out when to use “who” or “whom,” or “lay” or “lie.” There’s an easy way to do that. The subject is the person or thing that is doing or saying something. The object is that to which something is being done or said about. Here’s one way to remember it: When you say “I love you,” I is the subject who is providing that love, and You is the object toward whom that love is being directed. So we can see Who is expressing love, and to Whom that love is being expressed. Unfortunately for some people, as the Who they get so caught up when things don’t go the way they want them to, or things don’t turn out the way they planned, they want to blame it on the Whom. However, in many cases, they don’t realize that the subject has become the object of their own mistake, be it foolishness, carelessness or blindness to reality. So the next time something doesn’t work out, instead of looking for a culprit outside yourself, first look within yourself and you may find it there. Not only is that helpful in solving the error, but it’s a lot easier dealing with yourself than someone who is not under you control. – Dr. Robert R Seyda